I have to get this off my chest.

Since when is it alright to let others carry your burden for you?
Since when is it alright to let go of your responsibility and assume others will shoulder that responsibility for you?
Since when is it alright to get somebody to do the work for you while you sit back and wait for the result?
Since when is it alright to assume somebody is always on standby and free to do what you want them to do?
Since when is it alright to assume that somebody will bail you out when you yourself are not even trying hard to help yourself?
Since when is it alright to keep silence while others have to pick up the slack for you?
Since when is it alright to let others be punished because they have put their trusts on your words?
Since when is it alright to pretend everything is ok while the other person is silently suffering because of your action?
Since when is it alright to conveniently forget about your responsibility?

We all have our own responsibilities, we all have financial difficulties to a certain degree, we all have our own commitments regardless whether single or married, we all have our own sets of problems, we have our own stress, etc etc. Just because we don't talk about that openly does not mean that our lives are smooth sailing.  That does not give you the right to shove aside your responsibility and expect someone else to pick it up for you.  We all have enough stress of our own in our lives everyday....we don't need to be burdened by your stress too.  You need to understand that person's predicament before you dish out any selfish remarks or actions.

It is especially difficult when a family member, a spouse or a close friend is being put into such predicament by your irresponsible attitude. When is it enough?  Does somebody need to cut off relationship or distanced themselves away from you in order for you to realise that your actions are not desirable?

It is one thing to have people trust you enough to want to help you but when you FAIL to return that trust or when you abuse that trust, it is only a matter of time when that trust will forever be lost. Once you lost that trust, people will never look at you the same way, even if they can forgive you at some point in their lives.